Q:regarding that autism thing, I get that the friend might have been intending to do good but in the same way that they think they can just 'magic away' stuff like depression by saying 'pull your socks up'. pretty sure OP was saying that they WEREN'T making excuses and therefore actually doing their best. I don't see how the friend dismissing any and all efforts on their part was the slightest bit helpful, and really, that's exactly what was going on. acting like OP wasn't even trying.
I didn’t really get that vibe. They were talking about initially how good OP was at something, and then were telling them to come out and be more open about it. It sounds like OP doesn’t have a lot of confidence in whatever their friend was talking about, and their friend was trying to encourage them to come out of that shell. I’m not saying that they couldn’t approached it in a better manner, because they definitely could have, I’m saying that there was nothing inherently malicious nor “talking over” with what they said.
I don’t really know the relationship between their friend so they’re the one making the call, not me, but I really hope that they don’t cut off ties from this person based on this incident alone.
Q:hello about the autistic post i made, all of it is based of what i have been told by doctors (i have it myself) and the 'jump to conclusions' part. i was meant to add 'if its not straight forward' sorry for the error
Well, what those doctors told you seems to be rather quasi-fear-mongering. They’re mostly quite negative, if not inaccurate as well to some extent, things to tell someone about autism when there are a lot of positives to be had, as well. ;-;
OP could just post the diagnostic criteria… I didn’t read the original post though so I can’t really judge.
Well today I learned I’m glad that I’m not a fireman! The fireman went off while I was filling my gas tank and it scared the shit out of me!
Q:What exactly is autism?
It is a disability
depending on what type you have: minor, moderate or major
You see things diffrently
hear things diffrently
autism controls how you think and how you deal with things
e.g when i was young i would hide under tables to avoid people and i would cover my ears to stop all the noises.
because in my mind if i couldn’t hear them, they wernt there.
autism makes socialising really hard
and it fucks with your emotions.
Autism makes the world and people in it diffrent
another interesting story
a friend of mine said her autistic cousin put a fish on the bench and gave it cpr because she saw it work on tv.
Autism is very complicated
autistic people often hear the start of what you’re saying and the end.
so they jump to conclusions quicklyI can’t help but disagree with this, to some extent: “autistic people often hear the start of what you’re saying and the end."
This one is actually a first-time thing to have heard about, neither in person nor through research/reading testimonials. It definitely isn’t a universal thing, though. I know many of us who will require context explanations and clarifications because subtlety is a big no-no with us in most cases, but… only hearing the beginning and end of something? That’s totally new.
unless autism is evolving and I am becoming a part of an obsolete generation //somewhat sarcastic//
I genuinely am curious to know if anybody else experience(s)(d) this?…
My brain’s memory appears to function in a stack, and I must process individual phrases separately. I understand the whole message, but I may have trouble if it takes too long for a part to be interpreted. Either way, I prefer written communication because it can be reviewed later and be spliced up for better processing.
So, this happened yesterday. Someone who is supposed to be one of my very best friends informed me that she knows me better than my family knows me, and better than I know myself. And that she knows autism better than the professional who helped me and my family understand that I’m autistic.
There is no discussion about it. It doesn’t matter what I say, she refuses to believe it. She sees autism as an excuse, when for me, it’s been the opposite. I’ve stopped blaming others for not understanding me, for being offended by me, for ignoring me. I’m finally able to learn better social skills and coping techniques because now I’m aware that I need them. No excuse - just an explanation for things that have been a struggle for me my entire life. With this knowledge, I’m better able to change things for myself and be a better friend, daughter, sister, girlfriend. How is that an excuse?
I don’t think she realizes how hurtful and demeaning this is, but it’s upsetting me a lot. I don’t really have a lot of friends to begin with, and I don’t want to lose one like this.
She knows you, one autistic person. She knows ONE autistic person. She knows maybe two autistics. Maybe three. Maybe ten or twenty. But every single autistic person is different in their own way. I am not representative of you, just as you are not of me.
It truly is unfortunate that your friend is like this, but she needs to understand. Is there nothing you, or someone you may know, can do? Perhaps use some sort of analogy she can understand?
Perhaps this individual is trying to help encourage you to do something? I know that in a literal sense it appears offensive, but it could be that this person is trying to help get you off your feet. I wouldn’t be so quick at the draw with something that honestly seems pretty vague. The worst thing that this person said was that they “know how autistic/asperger’s people feel” but they’re saying that to try to encourage OP to come out of their shell and promote whatever they do to do it better. It honestly looks like an attempt at encouragement, not talking over someone. This sounds like someone who is a good friend who said something in maybe not the best way but cares about your success, OP. You really sound like you’re looking to be offended.
Do you want to know someone who genuinely believed that they understood autistic people better than themselves? Enter Beth, a woman that I met back in 2012 and will have a lasting impact on my life for how absolutely batshit insane she was.
She was the mother of a spergian friend of mine at the time. I don’t talk to him anymore because he was verbally abusive, but his mother was oh so much worse. Absolutely the worst person I have ever honestly had the displeasure of meeting. She constantly talked over me and told me that I should just give up everything that I was doing because I had autism, ignoring my ambitions, talents and abilities. She told me that there were things that I would never be able to do. She told me I would never overcome my problems and never accomplish anything. She outright told me that I should just sign up for disability now because there was no future for me in the job market. She talked down to me, she spoke slowly to me, she ignored every part of who I was. Sure, I get pissed that my parents don’t accept my diagnosis. That’s fine. They still accept me for who I am as a person. This woman wouldn’t even do that for me. She just saw me as a giant hunkin’ showpiece for Autism Speaks’s bullshit and viewed her as doin the Lord’s work for a charity case. I kicked her ass by blazing my own trail and making a name for myself.
THAT’S someone who talks over you. Not this person. This person could have worded it better but I genuinely believe they are trying to encourage you to embrace your talents and be proud of your abiltiies, and that is someone who cares about you.
did she get a haircut
does it make anyone else uncomfortable that they changed her entire race because she went out with Ron in their sixth year
isn’t that what happened???
they changed a character’s entire race because she as a character became important and relevant for a short amount of time
Umm, no. They did not change her entire race simply because she dated Ron. Actually think about it. Up until the sixth book, she was a background character that was only ever mentioned in passing, so she wasn’t given a physical description. Then in the sixth book, Lavender was finally described, as having ‘pale skin and dirty blonde hair’. Well, the first few Harry Potter movies came out before the Half-Blood Prince book did, so the casting directors did what they wanted with the character.
Another thing, the Lavender Brown from the first few movies only appeared in the first few movies. Lavender didn’t even appear in the 4th and 5th movies, because again, she was a background character, and wasn’t vital to the story. The only reason her race was changed was because a physical description was finally in the books, and it didn’t fit what the directors had, so they had to recast her. It was not because she dated Ron.
Somebody spread this shit because I refuse to have this turn into some social justice bullshit
Q:Toby tries to be friends with everyone but nobody likes him.
In my personal opinion there’s nothing inherently wrong with art of an erotic nature, no, not even that featuring children’s characters necessarily, so long as it’s tasteful, is shared exclusively among consenting adults, and doesn’t promote unhealthy sexual practices.
The problem with the majority of brony’s pony porn is that it fails this criteria.
- Please explain how posting to venues with filters enabled in order to keep adult content OUT of a Safe Search is doing anything BUT sharing exclusively among consenting adults.
- Define “unhealthy practices”. I’d love to hear this, especially because people like you claim to be against discrimination based on sexuality.
Do explain how characters (particularly ones that, the majority of the time, are drawn as either anthropomorphic, thus no different than furry art, or as straight-up humanizations) engaging in what amounts to no different than the basic practices of human sexuality are promoting anything the least bit “unhealthy”.
- I would LOVE to know how you know ANYTHING about “the majority of brony’s porn”. Have you seen all of it? Because I’m pretty sure you go out of your way to AVOID it (oh, but then, you support people who were found to be drawing exactly what you’re claiming to be against, so it’s not like anyone can take anything you say the least bit seriously). Do you even read your own posts? Can you really not see how hilariously STUPID you sound?
You basically just went “I’m totally okay with porn made for cartoons, but NOT WHEN BRONIES DO IT, BECAUSE I DON’T LIKE THEM.”
How you manage to not choke on your own hypocrisy and suffocate face-down in a puddle of it like Jimi Hendrix is astounding.